Love Is A Four Letter Word / by Dana Bergstrom

For some people, love can be associated with obligations, shoulds, musts, and outdated relationship rules that were recorded 2000+ years ago and followed to a T because, you know, the angry God Hell thing. Even if you weren’t brought up with a literal interpretation of the Bible, you may be a person doing their best to follow “loving" rules laid out by your family or culture that don’t really feel all that great, but you do them anyway because you think that this is what love should do.

Sometimes I still associate love with negative feelings, but you know what word has never rubbed me the wrong way? Inspiration! I am crazy about that word!

And today I just realized that that is what the word “love" truly means to me. It means that I have gotten out of my own way, I’ve decided to not listen to the Inner Bully, the voice of fear, and I have let something other than my ego run me. I am inspired when I let the spirit of love fill me up.

And inspiration is sooooo easy to feel whenever I’m with others who are not looking for things that are wrong and for people to judge. I feel it in a big way when I'm around people who are curious and playful and filled with wonder. That's why I'm crazy in love with Pauly who is so great at seeing the positive, the abundance, the goodness in everything. It's also why I fell madly in love with my grrrls. We created a environment that was safe and non-judgmental and it naturally allowed the love to rush in and overflow us all.

We'd just gotten married and were about to leave my hometown in Nebraska, so we posed for one last pic. Pauly was inspired to pull me in for a surprise smooch just before the photo was snapped. Young love! So full of inspiration!

We'd just gotten married and were about to leave my hometown in Nebraska, so we posed for one last pic. Pauly was inspired to pull me in for a surprise smooch just before the photo was snapped. Young love! So full of inspiration!

I feel love and inspiration when I'm all alone too. And I'm now discovering that it's even possible to feel the love with curmudgeons, whiners, jerks and people who are super into rules and dogma. It's just a bit more challenging when I'm with others who are controlled by their fear-based Inner Bully, but it is totally doable! I am 100% responsible for what I choose to focus on. Wham, bam, yes, I am.

When I allow inspiration to take me over and fear is no longer making the decisions, I am IN LOVE. To simply be in the moment, allowing inspiration to have its way with me, well, I cannot think of anything that feels better than that.